Something A Little Different.

For quite some time now I've been running a Tumblr blog. It started off as a place where I'd post any photos that inspired me or just generally caught my eye. Over recent months it progressed into something I definitely see as a positive place.

The media persists on telling you if you don't do ~this~ or look like ~this~ and ~this~ then you aren't deemed worthy enough for society's standards. I guess it gradually happened after I learnt to accept myself but my Tumblr became a place where I would post inspiring quotes for everyone, something to give them a little confidence boost. Because you are worthy enough.

To this day I get people in my inbox leaving me questions like 'how do you stay so confident?' You have to learn not to give a damn what other people think of you. I know it's easier said than done because I've been in that position but what gives people the right to judge you? Do you think they're perfect? Because they aren't, no one's flawless. You just have to block out the negativity. The number on your clothes label doesn't define you as a person. It's not a scale of how good a person you are but people tend to use it in that way. It seems the lower the number the better you are as a person and that couldn't be less true.

If you want to become confident in yourself, get rid of all the negativity. Is there a friend in your life always making horrible jibes at you? They aren't a proper friend, get rid. Anonymous questions getting you down? Disable them. There are so many ways you can eradicate the hate.

I don't doubt that you will still have the occasional idiot that won't like you and judge you because of how you look. Hell, I still get it now and I'm 24! But everyone has a different idea of what beautiful is. Someone I find absolutely beautiful (Jensen Ackles! ;D), someone else might not like but that's ok because everyone has different tastes. You just have to remember that just because you don't like something doesn't give you the right to tear it down.

This is a quote I always think of when people talk like being fat is the worst thing ever:

Don't insist on trying to be like someone else, or that you wish you were someone else. You are your own person and that's a wonderful thing, embrace it and be whoever you are! If people don't like it, that's just too bad. In past years I always used to try and be quiet and less cheeky but it never worked. I cracked before the end of the day because it's just who I am.

I see a lot of people on Tumblr who think that if they become thin, they'll feel good about themselves. Whilst there might be a slim chance (pun not intended) of that, you need to learn to be happy with yourself however you are.

Confidence doesn't just stem from how you look on the outside. It's inside that head, how your brain thinks and you have to reprogram it into accepting yourself.

I'm not sure exactly what the purpose was to this post and it wasn't meant to focus so heavily on weight, rather all dislikes people have against themselves. I just wanted to let people know that they aren't alone. I see so many people on a daily basis on the various social networks I'm on, feeling rubbish about themselves, the only person that can change your perspective on how you see yourself is you. Instead of focusing on all the negatives, focus on the good stuff. What you've achieved with your life, your favourite bits about you, about your personality, the people that love you for you.

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